Showing posts with label tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label tips. Show all posts

Friday, September 23, 2016

HOW TO STAY POSITIVE WHEN LIFE HAS THROWN YOU A TON OF BRICKS


I'm probably not one to talk about staying afloat, I mean, I'm only in my early 20s, what the hell do I know about life?! But then again, I always believe that each person knows something that other people don't--so, let's give this a try, no?

Life has been really hard to me recently. Work and school wise all in together.

As a person who's in her early 20s, things can get so out of the place all of a sudden. There are times where you feel as if you got everything nicely done and under control and then there are those days where you just feel like staying in bed for the whole day, watching your TV shows, and crying about the idea of adulthood.

"Adulthood," ha! The root of all evil! The reasons behind every groan before getting up in the morning and hatred towards Mondays (poor Mondays). When you say adulthood, you just don't mean being a responsible kid who finishes their home works in time and getting to school safe without the help of your parents. When you say adulthood, you meant being a mainstream mother-figure who knows almost about everything house related and being a father-figure who brings the bread home every night. But when you're in your 20s, it's so hard to step right into adulthood without feeling so... Lost. You were just a kid... And now they expect you to be an independent individual who can handle pressure and stress all at the same time? It's bearable, yes. But can be really draining.

So here are some tips in staying positive to keep going on:

REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED
This may throw you off a little. I know, I know, so norm, much corny (#doge). But remembering all the reasons for your hardships can make you feel a lot better and may boost your spirit. It must be something so special for you to let hard obstacles get into you. It must be something so special for you to keep going when you know that quitting is a much easier action. Something worth it will require a lot of sweat and effort--and tears.

IT WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER
What doesn't kill you make you stronger while you're pissed off crying, but that's not the point so.
Every obstacle gives you a new lesson. You'll find out your weaknesses and the extent of your abilities. You'll crave for what you want and sharpen your Achilles heel turning them into themselves while overcoming those weaknesses. You'll realize that your goal is stronger than your fears making you push through your limits--and once you're set and done? You'll understand that everything you went through is worth it.

VENT
Just. Vent.
There's nothing worse than keeping everything to yourself. Your rage, your frustration, you have. to. LET. IT. ALL. OUT. You know that feeling when you feel as if your chest is so heavy? That's when you know you've taken everything all to yourself. There's nothing wrong with letting off some steam! Run to your best friend or parents! Pour your heart out until you have nothing left to complain about;  cry all your frustrations away until you run out of tears in your eyes. If opening up really isn't your thing, then write it all down in a diary or a journal or maybe even your personal/private blog.

ASK FOR HELP
Each and every one of us are different; and in all those fractions of differences are people who are afraid of asking for help for the reason of being seen as a bothersome. Calling for SOS shouldn't be seen as a burden. You shouldn't be embarrass to run for help when you feel lost and in need of a little bit of guidance. On the contrary, you may even realize how willing people are to offer help when you run to them!

So that puts an end to this list! How about you? What do you do to stay positive?
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Wednesday, July 06, 2016

SAUNA TIME // KOREAN JJIMJILBANG EXPERIENCE + TIPS


As someone who grew up in a tropical country, I've never desired for warmth and heat in my surrounding - if anything else, I would trade anything for a cold breeze in a snap of a finger.

The boyfriend and I had a chance on experiencing this warmth and heat. Although I have to add sweat - A LOT OF SWEAT - when we both tried the Korean sauna, AKA jjimjilbang, here in Jersey. I know, I know, IT'S SUMMER, why the heck are you trying this in this season?! Well, that's because we found a good deal from Groupon. Haha!

Let me give you a talk-through experience with Korea's famous jjimjilbang!


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EXPERIENCE
As soon as I left the lobby and enter the gender-segregated areas, I started to feel the vibe of a different culture - for a second there, I WAS CAVEMAN SPONGEBOB, I have no clue what was going on and what I was supposed to do!

My cheeks were burning and I wasn't thinking straight. I was seriously flushing.

Cubbies are your best friend in Korean's jjimjilbang. As soon as you leave the lobby you have to leave your shoes in cubbies (or put them in a plastic bag and leave them in your locker), I was stopped by a lady for wearing my shoes in the locker area, eek! 

I then looked for my locker, changed clothes, left my stuff, forgot to close my locker, and got lost in a way that I was stopped again because I was heading to the men's area. YAY! *roll-eyes* 

As soon as I figured things out - which obviously took a long time as I have no idea how many times I forgot to close my locker and got lost - I put myself together and started acting like a commoner. I wrapped my towel on my head to separate my hair from my face, the boyfriend and I met up somewhere in the building, and we braced ourselves because HELL IS COMING.


There are at least three domes each floor that fits an average of 6 people. Each sauna rooms offer different remedies to ease various conditions that ranges from muscle ache, fatigue, joint pains, to increased blood circulation and detoxification effects, and pore cleansing for your skin. You can only imagine how happy my lower back are as well as skin pores! 

Jeremy sweating it off, LOL.
We started on very gentle heat and moving our way to a room that gives off a 200-degree Celsius heat. In that 200-degree C (392-degree F) burning room, we sat on a neatly folded blanket and pretty much reflected on life - 1) why did we ever thought going into a sweat room sauna is fun??, 2) why didn't anyone tell us we can bring another blanket to cover ourselves up?! Right after sweating tremendously for that so-so 10-minute stay, we went to an Ice sauna.

In between saunas, we played chess (he lost, hehe), had drinks, ate baked eggs - which tastes sooo good, played solitaire in the PC room, stayed in one of the relaxing room, and went to the shower area to finish the stay off.

One of the unique things to be experienced in jjimjilbang is the shower area. Now, you must be thinking, what's so great about the shower area? Well, to be honest, nothing much; it's just that you have to be completely naked onced you passed the cubbies (again).

Cubbies by the main shower room are used for your clothes. You must leave your uniform/pajamas in one of the baskets in the shower area, leave your clean clothes in your designated cubby, bring your toiletries (if you brought one yourselves), and enter the main shower area completely out in the open. Haha, get that? Out in the open because you're actually naked? Okay, I'll stop.

Depending on the jjimjilbang you went to, regular stand-up shower rooms are limited. What they mostly have are hand showers attached to rows of low walls - so low that you have to use a stool to avoid prolonged squatting - mind you these are not even shower stalls. Out in the open! Haha.

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One of the many crystal decorations in the lounge area
WHAT TO BRING
As I stay in the jjimjilbang, I realized things that I must bring or wear in the future to make things easy and more comfortable. Here are some of them:

1. Easy to take-off and wear-back clothes. I was wearing a medium length dress, no zippers, or anything on it. Changing my outdoor clothes to the pajamas/uniform was way easier this way than, by example, wearing jeans and complicated tops. This may help you as well if you feel uncomfortable naked with other people as it will make dressing up way faster.

2. New changing clothes. If you don't want to reuse the clothes you were wearing before you changed into your uniforms, you're free to bring extra ones for yourself.

3. Socks. Shoes are not allowed inside the facilities, so if you feel uncomfortable showing your bare feet or walking around with only your feet, you're free to wear socks to your heart's content. In the jjimjilbang the boyfriend and I went to, though, they were selling socks for $2.

4. Hair tie if your hair is long. I have a shoulder length hair, but boy do I want to put them in a bun once I started sweating!

5. Toiletries. Again, depending on the jjimjilbang you go to, toiletries may be provided. The one I went to provide towels, a big bottle of shampoo and conditioner by the hand-showers, soap, q-tips, lotion, and hair products, dryers, and comb. But no toothbrush nor toothpaste*. Some people use the ones in the shower area (I did! I used the shampoo, it was great), some bring their own products (I did! Although I forgot the toothbrush after reminding the boyfriend for so many times -_-'')

*Update. There's actually toothbrush and toothpaste! But you have to ask one of the ajumma and they will give them to you. Plus, the boyfriend said he had them too in his area!

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WHAT TO EXPECT
I know that it can be really frustrating and scary to be in a place you have no idea about - I mean the culture shock! This isn't even a different country yet, but I almost lose myself, haha! Here are thoughts that came to mind after my stay at the jjimjilbang; some reminder to keep in mind once I go back:

1. Goddamnit, READ. I know how overrated this sounds, but reading signs will help you so much. When I first went inside the segregated areas, I got flustered and forgot how to human. It's like I forgot how to function normally. I know, too exaggerated, but it's really different. It's like you teleported to South Korea. Until, of course, you read the signs, and all is well and back to normal.

2. You may get lost. Jjimjilbang floors that contains at least three domes? Yes, there's a chance that you will get lost. My advice is to research the jjimjilbang you will go to and if possible look for a map of the facilities. I did, but then I forgot to send one to the boyfriend, guess who got frustrated? LMAO.

3. It will be HOT and SWEATY. Jeremy and I made the rookie mistake of underestimating the heat each sauna room offers. The result? We were both dehydrated and light headed after a few minutes in the domes. Pro tip: don't forget to gulp water before and after each sauna room. Expect water dispensers around each floor.

4. THEY. DON'T. CARE. Getting naked outside of your own bedroom challenges your self-esteem. Will you be uncomfortable? Yes. Will you see your flaws and insecurities? Yes. Will you be naked around other naked women/men? Yes. Will they care? NO. People go to the jjimjilbang to relax and have fun. I asked a random woman how it works in the shower area before I went in, one thing she reminded me of is not to be shy. It seems a little overrated to be told not to be shy, but too rare to be told to be more confident. So from me to you, be more confident.

Have you ever been to a jjimjilbang before? If yes, what's your best moment in it? If no, do you think you would you ever go? Anyhow, if you're reading this then you have most likely read everything I wrote up there and that seriously made me sooo happy! :') Have a great day!

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